In A Relationship
I'm an 18 year-old college student and an atheist. My girlfriend is Catholic and very religious. We coexist fine and respect the others' opinions, but I'm afraid sometime in the future we will have a very serious talk about religious beliefs, or lack thereof. Is there anything you suggest that I do or say so that we can avoid serious conflict? I'm willing to be flexible about many things, but I'm afraid she will use religion as an excuse that she must do things her Catholic way. I'm just curious as to what you think would be best to say to address this situation, because we want to stay together and I don't want Catholicism or Atheism to get in the way.
From: "Positive Atheism Magazine" <firstname.lastname@example.org>
To: "Marc Czajkowski"
Subject: Re: Positive Atheism, Cliff's Writings
Date: Sat, 27 Jan 2001 11:27:01 -0000
I was in a similar relationship about five years ago, and it disintegrated for regular reasons, not over the religion. I was in a relationship with a woman who eventually came over to atheism, but that disintegrated for regular reasons as well. I think the only real problem would be what to teach the kids. If you're both liberal about your position, this should not be a problem; but if one or both of you are fundamentalistic in your position, this could pose a problem between you. To me, the fundamentalism is the problem, not the theism. Also, there are such things as fundamentalist atheists.
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